It’s five minutes to seven. The house is quiet again after the hurrying, whining, scurrying and gentle nagging that are always a part of our everyday morning routine.
My list of chores tells me that I should be cleaning the bathrooms by now. I was debating whether to do my devotions first or to start with the day’s housework. Still undecided, I sit for a while to gather my energy and to listen to the inner conversations in my head.
“If i finish cleaning the two bathrooms in thirty minutes, i can start the laundry, do my devotions and squeeze in a little bit of writing while i wait.”
“But i will be tired after all the chores are done and i may not be receptive enough during devotions.”
“Yes, that’s a good point. But you will not be able to focus on devotions while your mind wanders to all things you still have to do after.”
During this internal debate, a still small voice joins the conversation and says, “What is it you really need?”
That question hit a vulnerable spot and forced me to stop my inner monologue. I realized, i am doing it again. Minding too much of things that i don’t really need to do and neglecting those that matters.
I was bent on cleaning the external clutter when what i should be doing first is clearing out my internal disorder.
Because I have always been Martha
Martha and Mary are two sisters depicted in the bible. Martha is the busybody and the one who is obsessed with housework while Mary was the one who chose to give full attention to Jesus when He visited their home.
Luke 10:38-42 (NIV)
38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said.40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”
41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one.Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
Distracted by all the preparations
Yes, this is me. I am Martha through and through. The one who is always on her feet, hands that are never dry and thoughts that are never still. The one who spends hours packing everyone’s stuff for a vacation, feels flustered when something goes missing and gets distracted by the preparations that i miss out on the fun of anticipation. My children have a hard time sleeping the night before a family trip. They are so excited they will count the hours till we leave. I have a hard time sleeping thinking about all the things that i may have forgotten to pack and worrying about things that have not or may not even happen.
I live with this motto “Do what you can, wherever you are, whenever you can.” Being a full-time mom gives me the gift that everyone wants. Time. I have so much time in my hands i was intent on using it wisely. I filled my planner with tasks. I was juggling family, ministry and work. Ironically, the first task that i always write down for each day is devotion. I meant to start each day with it but it doesn’t always happen that way. Soon it became clear that i was not using my gift wisely at all. I may seem to be managing everything efficiently, but something had to give in eventually.
My health suffered and it was a wake-up call.
The inner mess vs the outside mess
There was a time when i used to have a full hour devotion every morning. It worked initially for me but as our family grew and schedules became fuller, i had to re-arrange my quiet times to make myself available for all of them.
This went well for a while until i felt its effects on one vital relationship that i have. I was neglecting my time with God. Our coffee dates were reduced to quick fixes. Squeezing it in gaps that i could find in my schedule. I was shortchanging Him so i can meet my family’s every need. Our house was always in order, my family well fed, but my soul was hungry. It was not getting enough nourishment. Even on days when i find myself having bouts of free time for Him, my mind keeps wandering to the many things i still need to do, none of them concerning my relationship with Him.
Soon anxiety has found a way in and fatigue was easily felt. That is what happens when your soul has not been nourished, pretty much the same thing when your body fails to receive all the nutrients it needs to combat sickness. The only difference is while the body recovers with rest and medicine, the soul would need more to be refreshed.
There was too much clutter inside of me that i was failing to hear clearly what He is telling me. I was so busy clearing out what is seen from the outside that i forgot that there was a mess that needs to be tidied up from the inside. Weeds have started to grow and a day is not enough to pull them all out. I was giving away so much but was not receiving abundantly in return. My cup has ran out.
My soul was ailing and it needed immediate healing. There was only one place that i can go to.
At the feet of Jesus
Luke 10:39 “She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said.”
This place is where i learn to be like Mary. A character so new to me that i had to make every effort to break the old habits of self-reliance and worry so i can train myself to acquire new ones. Being still and just willing myself to listen is not easy but the Lord gently reminded me that all i needed to do is remember how it was like when i used to spend hours just talking to Him. Those times where the ones when i was at my best. My days were full but my cup never runs dry. I was imparting and receiving in equal amounts at the same time. I was caring for my family with joy, serving the Lord with love and my mind was at peace.
Choosing what is better
Luke 10:41-42 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”
Choosing better is choosing what is not easy. But the benefit is lasting. In learning to be like Mary, i had to let go of control over my life and the lives of those i love. Laying it all down at the feet of Jesus. Choosing better is choosing God everyday and everything that He represents. Humility, Obedience, Selflessness, Peace, Joy, Hope and Love. Choosing God is a conscious effort. He is not a choice we make at the spur of the moment. We don’t choose Him just to fill the gaps. We choose Him because He makes us whole. He fills our cup and His water never runs out. It overflows.
What we truly need
It is almost time for me to leave the house and pick up my son from school. I haven’t cleaned the bathrooms yet nor folded the clean laundry. It looks like my morning chores will have to wait till the afternoon, if there is time. I don’t mind. I had four hours with God. My soul is so full but i want more. I am glad i left Martha and chose Mary today. I almost didn’t but thanks to that still, small voice, i am refreshed. I chose what i needed and the Lord came to me.
I have chosen what is better and it will not be taken away from me.